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A Father’s Heart Isn’t Always Easy to Explain

31 Sunday May 2026

Posted by Tim Hughes Living with CML in Family, Fishing, Kayaking, Life, Twins, Uncategorized

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appointments, Daughter, Doctor, Emototions, Engagement, Family, father, Fishing, Happiness, Heart, Kayaking, Life, love, MRI, Parent, Parenting, writing

I’m fortunate that I don’t have any doctor’s appointments this week. That doesn’t mean I’m completely free from medical matters, though. I still need to drive across town to one of my labs to pick up a copy of the results from my latest MRI, so I can take them to an orthopedic doctor next week and have him take a look at my back.

Earlier this afternoon, I received a text inviting me to go fishing tomorrow. Under normal circumstances, I probably would have jumped at the opportunity, but I had already made plans to pick up my medical records. I politely declined and told him I’d try to make it another time.

The good news is that I had already told my wife I wanted to go fishing at least a couple of times this week. I mentioned that to my daughter today, and while she has commitments every morning, she does have one afternoon available. The plan now is to spend an afternoon fishing with her and then head back out the next morning on my own. One advantage is that I’ll be able to leave all my fishing gear in the truck overnight and won’t have to unload everything until the following day.

Saturday will be spent giving my truck a thorough cleaning. I don’t want my parents riding across town in a dirty truck when we take them out to dinner that evening.

As of right now, my parents have no idea why they’ve been invited to a nice Italian restaurant. To the best of my knowledge, the daughter who’s getting engaged is still somewhat in the dark as well. She believes it’s all going to happen on the 13th. The ring won’t be a surprise—they picked that out together—but walking into a restaurant filled with family and friends who have gathered to celebrate with her afterward certainly will be.

I’m very happy for my daughter, but if I’m being honest, I’m a little scared for her too. Marriage is a life-changing step, and like every parent, I wonder if she’s ready.

She left the nest several years ago when she and her sister moved into an apartment together. At the time, it felt like a major milestone. This feels different. More permanent. More final.

I’m having a hard time putting my feelings into words. There’s joy because I’m proud of the woman she has become. There’s excitement because a new chapter of her life is about to begin. But there’s also a touch of sadness because another chapter is closing.

Maybe that’s just part of being a parent. We spend years teaching our children to become independent adults, and then one day they do exactly that. We celebrate their success while quietly realizing that they no longer need us in quite the same way they once did.

I suppose that’s what I’m feeling tonight—a mixture of happiness, pride, excitement, and just a little bit of melancholy. It’s not a bad feeling. It’s simply the realization that life keeps moving forward, whether we’re ready for it or not.

3/6/2020 Weekly Update

06 Friday Mar 2020

Posted by Tim Hughes Living with CML in Cycling, diet, Gym, Retirement, Weight Loss

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cycle, disappointement, garage, Gym, Parenting, treadmill, Wife, workout, Wreck

It’s definitely been one roller coaster of a ride this week.  I gained a pound, lost two pounds then I gained a pound.  All in all, I lost 1.4 pounds this week.  I’ve got 15.4 pounds to go before I can get my big butt on my bicycle.

I went every day this week to the gym.  I spend on average 30 minutes each on the treadmill and the cycle.  I walk away with my clothes soaked in sweat and my legs heavy as lead.  Twice this week I’ve worked with the trainer learning how to operate the machines correctly.  Next week I’ll be adding at least some of the machines to my daily routine.

I had to change my routine somewhat to accommodate my wife.  This was due to my son having a car accident late Thursday afternoon.  It messed his car up somewhat and it had to be towed to a garage.  So, being the generous parents we are, we’ve given my wife’s car to him to drive during the next three weeks while his car is getting repaired.  This requires me to get up in the morning and take my wife to work in the mornings and making sure I’m there in the afternoon to pick her up.  This also requires me to pick her up during the day to take her to her doctor’s appointments which I had to do today.  The things we do for our kids.

Back to my weight loss.  I’m a little disappointed that I haven’t lost more weight than I have.  I’ve read that when you start exercising like I have, you tear or damage the muscles which become inflamed.  When this happens the body retains fluid around the inflammation which aids in the healing process.  This also adds weight to your body.  This is all new to me so I can’t tell you if it’s true or not.  I did read this on the internet so it’s got to be true, right? lol.

365 Day Photo Challenge 272/365 “Another One College Bound”

28 Monday Sep 2015

Posted by Tim Hughes Living with CML in Photography

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365 Day Photo Challenge, Alabama, College, College Bound, Kids, Parenting, Teenagers

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I say that with very mixed emotions.  I have twin 17 year old daughters and both of them have been looking into colleges lately, more this past week than ever.  I am not ready for them to go off to college.  They are my babies and I’m not ready for them to grow up much less go off to college.  I

When my son went off to college I was ok with it.  My wife, however, was not.  Although the school is not but 45 miles away he was not coming home but a few weekends out of the year.  My son and I had spent a lot of time together camping and doing other activities with the scouts so I I figured I’d have problems with him going away.

I’ts going to be different with me with my girls.  We don’t do a lot of things together because dad isn’t cool.  We don’t have anything in common and we don’t watch the same television shows.  It kind of reminds me of the commonality of my wife and I.  Anyway, when they go off to school they will be missed a lot.  I’m not sure how I’m going to handle it.  Just going to take it one day at a time.

“Life Goes On!”

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