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Life’s Changes

05 Monday Sep 2016

Posted by Tim Hughes Living with CML in Photography

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Changes, College, Creek, Family, Five Mile Creek, Girls, health, Life

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I believe Heraclitus that once said “The only thing that is constant is change.”  This is so true.  How we handle change is what’s important.  There are those that can’t deal with it and go into some sort of mental breakdown while others it’s like water off a duck’s back, or they hide it very well.  My wife is one that can either hide it very well or she has found a way to deal with it.  I guess I need to talk to her to find out how she does it. She does not, however, like the time change.  She fusses about it all the time.  Me, it doesn’t bother me one way or the other.  That’s what I call the little things.  Little things in my book doesn’t bother me so much.  It’s the big things that, if I sit alone in a room and have time to think about it, I worry about it.  So much so that it bothers me; I lose sleep over it, my attitude changes and my temper get’s shorter.

This year alone has been full of changes and misfortunes.  If I had to list them by importance I’d have to say having my girls moving off to college was one of the biggest changes in my life right now.  All the crap with my health is a close second.  But dealing with my girls gone is quite challenging for me to deal with. It’s what I’m used to I guess.  I’m used to seeing one of my girls sitting in the recliner when I get ready to leave for work in the mornings.  I’m used to the same daughter saying grace at meal times.  I’m used to the hug I’d receive right before I’d leave for work in the mornings and the smiles I receive when I got home.  Now, I see empty beds at bedtime, an empty chair at the dinner table and only a phone call late at night to tell me how their day went.  I guess you could say that it’s the beginning of the end of life as I know it.

Anyone with kids will tell me that I’m not alone.  This has been going on for hundred’s of years.  You’d think they would have come up with a cure for this by now.  I know it’s been going on for years but for me, it’s only been going on for five weeks, two days and thirteen hours. I really miss my girls.  I try not to dwell on the fact that they’re not here and that if  I need to talk to them all I got to do is send them a text and when they can they’ll call me back.  Another thing, they’re only an hour away from me.  It’s not like some kids and be hours by plane from their folks.  Oh gees, I’m glad that they’re close by.

I guess there’s one good thing about missing my girls is that while I’m missing them I’m not dwelling on the issues I’m having with my health. That alone will cause anyone to go into deep, dark depression.

I’ve starting trying to get out more and getting more active.  Yesterday I went on a small hike, about 200 yards or so.  I walked down to this creek that our boy scout troop helped clear a path to several years ago.  It’s being used and I even saw some fire rings being used. One thing that I saw that I didn’t like is the amount of trash left by the campers.  Why can’t people pick up their trash?  I can never understand that.  Oh well, thoughts for another story.

Good Food

30 Saturday Jul 2016

Posted by Tim Hughes Living with CML in Photography

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Alabama, College, Food, Girls, Grill, Steaks, Supper, Twins, Weekend

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No matter how poorly I’ve felt the last few days I made myself go to the butcher shop and purchase some nice steaks and grill them for supper tonight.  I wouldn’t have done it for no other reason than for my girls last weekend before leaving for college later on this week.  I’m really going to miss them.

365 Day Photo Challenge 304/365 “The Long Awaited Weekend”

30 Friday Oct 2015

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365 Day Photo Challenge, Campgrounds, daughters, Dutch Oven, Girls, Halloween, Sickness

It’s going to be a wet weekend but I’m going to make the best of it.  I’m cooking for a small group for a pre halloween party.  I’ve got to get up early so that I get set up before they close the campground down to traffic.  The whole family was going until moments ago when one of my daughters decides to get sick.  My wife may be going to take her to the doctor in the morning if she’s not any better.

“Life Goes On!”

365 Day Photo Challenge 303/365 “She Misses Her Girls”

29 Thursday Oct 2015

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365 Day Photo Challenge, Cats, Dedication, Friendship, Girls, Kids, Twins

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I know I’ve posted this picture before but this one fits tonight’s topic so well.  Every time my girls leave the house, whether it’s going to school, to church or just going out to the store with their mom, Sophie will either sit by the door or sit on the back of the couch looking outside waiting on her girls to come home.  Most of the day while the girls are away at school both of our cats will stay on the foot of my bed but when it gets close to the time for the girls to get home Sophie will take her place on the back of the couch and wait for her girls to come home.  Once the girls are home she stays by their side until they go to bed.  I’ve never owned a cat that was so dedicated to any of my kids as she is.  The other cat is just happy that we feed him and keep his food dish completely ful.

“Life Goes On!”

365 Day Photo Challenge 184/365 “Working Daughters”

02 Thursday Jul 2015

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365 Day Photo Challenge, Alabama, daughters, Girls, Shopping, Weekend, Working

I feel very blessed to have finally it to this weekend.  I thought this day would not end.  I do not have to go back to work until Monday.  Tomorrow will be spent taking my wife out to lunch being that I had to work late on the day of our anniversary.  Afterwards I’m going to search for a smoker to smoke some ribs on Saturday.

I will not be seeing much of my twin daughters this weekend and that doesn’t set well with me. They both will be working.  They are only 17 and I really wished I could have talked them into not working their last summer before their senior year.  But, one daughter loves to shop and thinks she has got to go shopping EVERY WEEKEND and my wife simply complies to her wishes instead of arguing with her.  One thing that I don’t understand, and maybe it’s because I’m a male but why would you need to purchase a dress and wear it to one event and not be able to wear it to another event two weeks later.  My daughters excuse is because people may have already seen her in that other dress. Really?  So her closet if filled with dresses that she’s only wore once and more than likely will not wear again because someone else has already seen her in it.  The do shop well though.  She will find a dress that normally sells for $160 and find it on sale for $30 bucks.  Both my daughters are very smart shoppers and who ever marries them will be happy for that.

“Life Goes On!”

365 Day Photo Challenge 142/365 “A Different Sort of Memorial Day”

24 Sunday May 2015

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365 Day Photo Challenge, Alabama, Dependant, Depression, Girls, High School, Independance, Kids, Memorial Day, Photography

I woke up to the sound of the bathroom door closing and my daughters inside getting ready for work.  Normally I try to sleep in on the weekends but the last two mornings I’ve gotten up to the sound of my girls taking showers and doing their hair.  This has been so tough on me because my baby girls are growing up on me.  What made is so bad today is that my wife had found some pictures of them yesterday when they were about four or five playing with our then kittens.

I have never been diagnosed with depression but I know I have it at times.  Today was one of those days.  I didn’t ride my bike, too windy was my excuse.  I spent the day on my computer looking at pictures of my kids when they were little.  Not really feeling sorry for myself but then again maybe.  When my girls are at home we don’t spend much time with each other because our interests are so different.  They stay in their room watching tv and I stay in the den either on my laptop or watching tv or both.

The girls are seventeen and are both working at a local water park.  I am not ready for them to be working but I’m proud of them that they want to work and earn money to spend as they wish.  My girls are smart and make great grades in school and have never given us any cause to worry.  Neither one date which is fine by me because some of the boys they hang around with would not be my first pick for a boyfriend.

As a parent I worry about each of my kids.  My son is going back to school tomorrow and I won’t see him for several months.  But I worry about them each time they get behind the wheel.  My girls are not that experienced behind the wheel and I just worry that each time they leave the house it may be the last time I see them alive.

I’m reminded of yesterday while at the ballpark all those kids that are dependant on their parents to do everything for them.  My kids are independant and I’m proud for that but I’m also reminded that it wasn’t that long ago when they did depend on us to everything for them.  I sometimes miss that.

“Life Goes On!”

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